It’s half past six in the morning, and I’m already behind. Not behind on anything specific; that’s the strange part: behind in general. The feeling arrives before the day does, like a text message I haven’t opened yet but already know the tone of it.
This is what August looks like for me now. School’s out, the routine that quietly held my working week together has dissolved, and somewhere in the space between spending real time with my kids and actually running this business, I am supposed to locate several hours that do not currently exist.
I want to tell you I’ve solved this. I haven’t. What I’ve done instead is stop pretending the problem is a scheduling issue, because it isn’t. It’s an arithmetic issue, and arithmetic doesn’t respond to guilt or good intentions.
The Maths Nobody Says Out Loud
A UK survey put a number on it that made me feel less alone the first time I read it; I’d wager the shape of it holds wherever you’re reading this from, school calendar or not: 52 per cent of parents here say insufficient annual leave is their single biggest summer holiday challenge, and 55 per cent are relying on annual leave to cover the childcare gap. A third expect to be working from a playground bench at some point this summer. I have been that woman on the bench, laptop balanced on crossed legs, half-watching a climbing frame, half-drafting an email, fully present for neither.
The number that actually stopped me, though, was this one: one in three mothers here reduce their working hours over the summer holidays, and five per cent leave work altogether. Not because the work stopped mattering. Because the arithmetic of six weeks, one working parent and no extra hours in a day eventually forces a choice that isn’t really a choice, and I don’t think that arithmetic reads any differently in another country’s currency. I share the numbers not to depress you but because I think most of us are quietly doing this maths alone, assuming everyone else has cracked something we haven’t. They haven’t. The exact figures will differ depending on where you live and what your summer break looks like, but you can see the full UK research here if you want the oddly comforting relief of a stranger’s spreadsheet describing your exact week.
What Changed for Me, Slightly
I used to measure a day by how much of the list got crossed off. That measurement was designed to fail me every single day this summer, because the list was built for a version of my week that no longer exists between July and September. So I changed what I was measuring.
Instead of asking whether I got through the list, I started asking whether the two or three things that actually matter happened. Some days that’s a client call and forty minutes of real, phone-down attention with my kids. Some days it’s neither, and I’ve had to make peace with the fact that a day can be a write-off without it meaning I’m failing at either job. The list doesn’t shrink. I’ve just stopped treating it as the scoreboard.
I’ve written before about why intentions collapse the moment real life pushes back on them, and why the fix is never more willpower: Why Change Never Sticks, and How to Make It. The same logic applies here. I cannot will six weeks into having more hours in them. What I can do is decide the night before which two things actually matter tomorrow, and let everything else be genuinely optional rather than silently failed.
The Bit I’m Still Working On
I’d love to end this with a tidy system I now run flawlessly. I don’t have one. What I have is a slightly lower bar for what “on top of it” means, and slightly less shame about the days I miss it completely. My children will remember the summer, not the inbox. I’m trying to build my week around actually believing that, rather than just saying it while checking my phone under the table.
If you’re in the same six weeks right now, laptop balanced somewhere it shouldn’t be, you are not behind. You’re just doing arithmetic that was never designed to add up cleanly, same as the rest of us.
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